The Question and the Answer

Is that a tongue in your anonymous cheek? Well just to clarify, yes dating a black girl is a challenge for anyone. Dating a Filipino lesbian is a challenge. Riding a motorcycle is a challenge. Every endeavor a person undertakes is a challenge no matter how big or small. I didn’t say that black women were some extremely difficult challenge or an easy one for that matter. I just said a black girl with natural hair is equally as challenging as any black girl. I’m not sure what you interpreted.

Since you must know, experience tells me white women tend to be less challenging. I’ll admit that I’ve never been in a steady relationship with a white woman but I dated more than one. The white women that I dated seemed to be more infatuated with me being tall and black than my personality and the things that I did for them. And they listened and went along with everything I said. Black girls that I dated have been more independent in their thoughts and they looked for me to prove my worth to them to continue a relationship. That requires more work.

Mind you, I’m speaking very generally based on the people that I’ve dealt with and don’t think that I believe this to be true for every white woman or every black woman.

On the flip side, black women have been more rewarding because the black women that I have dated tended to be more decisive and confident in her actions. They looked at me more for support than guidance. For a guy like me, those qualities make a better emotional dynamic (if that makes sense) between her and I. Excuse me for digressing.

Like I said, this is just a general observation made based on my experience. It may offend you, but I can’t change what’s happened to me and these are the honest conclusions that I’ve come to.

Thanks for asking! I hope I answered your question!